In the West, a consumer mentality is often fostered in us even when it comes to church. We, unfortunately, all too easily have a “What’s in it for me?” attitude. And, where this exists, little is required of every member to grow in real love and care for each other. And, we like it that way!
Unfortunately, as a result of this, we experience a shallow form of what church really is. While we go deeper and deeper in knowledge with our countless programs, teachings and seminars, we remain poor in true fellowship where genuine love is fostered.
A Family, Not a Business
Our family is currently planning a trip to Disney World where a bunch of professionals do a superb job of running around in order to make the visitors happy. Isn’t this what church has become for many of us? In contrast, church life should be like family life where flexibility and sensitivity is fostered among every member toward one another and their needs.
Church cell groups, as well as organic, simple and house churches all contribute to making church more real, intimate and participatory for many and I would say are probably less prone to being consumer-oriented. And, I would also greatly encourage everyone to participate in a group of this nature. However, having said that, these groups often struggle to know how to adequately incorporate children with their needs into their gatherings.
What to do with the children can easily be a bone of contention and as a result it is probably ignored rather than addressed. Isn’t it strange that, “leave well alone” is the adage followed when all isn’t well. In this case, not addressing this issue of properly incorporating our children is at the peril of a healthy church life, the children’s best and their desire to remain attending when as adults the choice becomes theirs.
Let’s remember that children who have come to faith are a part of His Body. They need nourishment and are even able to nourish. The joy of successfully incorporating everyone should be our goal, especially those that Jesus demonstrated He would never turn away.
Recently I read a post called, “So Whaddaya do With the Kids” at http://www.home-church.org/voicesdocs/whaddaya.html that demonstrates a wise, incorporative and selfless model worth considering. I put it to you as an example “…so that you may know how one is to behave in God’s household, which is the church of the living God” (1 Tim 3:15).
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This is true in many of the Churches today… I a glad that I grew up in a Church in Irving Texas that was not like this… We were one big Family for many years… I left there in the 80’s to join the Sister Church of my Home Church because my Grandparents and Parents had decided it was time because my brothers and I were now grown to find a smaller Church that they could help to grow… It to was very Family Oriented… We stayed there until the 90’s when my Grandparents had passed on… My youngest brother by then was married and had moved to Sherman Tx and he told our parents and me that we should look into moving there. We did , but we never really settled into a Church Home because like you say the Churches were becoming more business oriented than Family oriented… My parents moved to McKinney and I stayed behind because I found my soul mate and we are married and even though he won’t go to Church , I attend The Red River Cowboy Church when I can…. My Dad passed away in 2008 and almost two years ago we moved my mom back to Sherman to live in a Senior Living Apt Complex close to our home and I take care of her now since she was diagnosed with Alzheimers. The Red River Cowboy Church is very Family oriented and has a warm feel about it.. We except people from all walks of life and teach them about Jesus the way it was meant to be taught… Biblically….Sorry this is so long, but I just wanted to let you know a little about me…and where I come from…
Thanks for sharing how Church has for the most part felt like family to you. May you experience that more while you continue being His family to others around you.
I think Max Lucado put it best. “It’s not about me. It’s about the Kindom of God”. And the body of Christ is a family. I like how you stressed that,
I cam e to visit from Amanda’s Books and More. I have been looking around your blog. I have really enjoyed looking around. I have a link party called Wednesdays Adorned From Above Blog Hop and would love to have you share this and any other posts with everyone. It runs from Tuesday night through midnight Sunday. Here is the link to the party.
Debi and Charly @ Adorned From Above
As a family with 5 kids that lives out simple church principles, we also get this question A LOT. Thanks for providing some needed perspective on what many see as a problem, but is actually an opportunity for growth for the whole body.