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The Logical Outcome of Complementarianism

The sad reality that many of my good Christian brothers and sisters don’t realise is that, in the end, their supposed scripture-tight homey Complementarian view toward women plays out in the suppression of women in society at large. Many may scoff and think that I am exaggerating the reach of this doctrine. However, consider the words of John Piper, a foremost champion of Complementarianism and one of the most influential and well respected Christian leaders and teachers of our time. He says, “To the degree that a woman’s influence over a man, guidance of a man, leadership of a man, is personal and a directive, it will generally offend a man’s good, God-given sense of responsibility and leadership, and thus controvert God’s created order.” He goes on to say, “For example, a drill sergeant might epitomize directive influence over the privates in the platoon. And it would be hard for me to see how a woman could be a drill sergeant — hut two, right face, left face, keep your mouth shut, private — over men without violating their sense of manhood and her sense of womanhood.”

Though many Complementarians wouldn’t take it that far, Piper’s view is the sum logical outcome from their interpretations of certain key texts in the Scriptures. And, to the degree that this view is held by men who hold sway (and also by women), and to the extent that they have influence, false notions are imposed upon women, families and churches, and even onto society. The end result is a distortion of God’s creative and redemptive purposes for women, which is a loss to everyone, even to men.

Creation Testifies That Women Can Lead Men

The loss to men is especially ironic considering that Eve was meant to be a gift to Adam and, by extension, women to all of humanity. While this loss is to be expected in humanity’s fallen state, it is sad when it gets perpetuated by those who are in Christ. This leads to the other sad irony of Complementarianism, which is that the world, rather than those who hold Christ’s redemptive message, often benefits by not impeding the potential in women. For example, women are in the senate, in congress and in parliaments, and others successfully lead very significant countries and corporations, not to mention past queens and prime ministers. Creation doesn’t lie, because, like Deborah in the Bible, women have proven to be very good and capable leaders over men.

Scripture Testifies That Women Can Lead Men

Now, to be fair, our faith is based on Scripture alone. And, in this regard, we thankfully have many churches that interpret and teach a better message concerning women by using the very methods of interpretation that Complementarians use, yet with outcomes that are more consistent with Scripture as a whole and with God’s intentions for women specifically. In this regard, Women as Leaders is a link to several posts where I give alternative historical-grammatical interpretations to those of Complementarianism. I believe that you will see them ring true to the rest of Scripture and unintentionally, yet unsurprisingly, to what we see evidenced in life around us.

Just as we have evidenced that the earth is a sphere and are, therefore, not surprised to find that the Bible says the same thing, we shouldn’t be surprised that the Bible teaches that women can be leaders of men. Perhaps culturally and religiously indoctrinated men, and insecure men in particular, will battle with this outcome, but that God’s word. I, for one, would be grateful to be like Barak. He submitted himself to Deborah who commanded him in accomplishing God’s will. Nevertheless, even in the face of excellent alternative biblical interpretations that don’t compromise the Scriptures in any way (as some suppose), we still have Christians who doggedly hold to their interpretations and who teach that the Bible instructs otherwise. And, this despite both biblical and natural evidences of women unshackled.

Finally, I would like to end by recommending this TED Talk that highlights the sad reality of male leadership and women suppression found in varying degrees in many homes and churches and, as a result, in society too: Why I Left an Evangelical Cult | Dawn Smith | TEDxNatick

Rob Morley

Enough Light

In a recent post, I mentioned I read through a commentary of Genesis by Derek Kidner in the Tyndale OT series. It is copyright from 1967. The point in noting its older date, is that I was surprised (pleasantly) by some egalitarian or progressive thoughts on the opening chapters of Genesis.

In the introduction Kidner states, in regards to the Fall:

“The shattering of the harmony of man and wife, not by any mutual disagreement but by their agreeing together against God, proved at once how dependent it had been on His [God’s] unseen participation. Without Him, love would henceforth be imperfect, and marriage would gravitate towards the sub-personal relationship foreshadowed in the terms ‘desire’ and ‘rule.'”

Kidner goes on to say that the rest of Genesis confirms this tendency. “Polygamy is partly to blame for this, but polygamy is itself the symptom of an unbalanced view of marriage, which…

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Male & Male He Made Them? http://www.rgbstock.com/gallery/weirdvis (Lynne Lancaster)

Male & Male He Made Them?
http://www.rgbstock.com/gallery/weirdvis
(Lynne Lancaster)

Isn’t it strange that people gaily, or is it ‘gayly’, go about redefining marriage to include persons of the LGBT persuasion when God clearly gave a woman to Adam as his helper and suitable counterpart (‘help meet’) for marriage.

GOD’S DESIGN

God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him”…So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man (Gen 2:18-22)

ADAM’S RESPONSE AND GOD’S WORD ON MARRIAGE

Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Gen 2:23 -24).

GOD’S LAW

If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them (Lev 20:13).

JESUS – MARRIAGE IS HETEROSEXUAL

But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife’ (Mar 10:6-7).

NEW TESTAMENT – HOMOSEXUALITY AND ITS CONSEQUENCES

For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due (Romans 1:26-27).

HOMOSEXUALITY, LIKE PEDOPHILIA

Because it was never in God’s design, homosexuality, like pedophilia, bestiality, adultery and fornication is destructive to the individuals involved as well as to a society that accepts it. It was for mankind’s benefit that these were spoken against in God’s word.

Rob

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mFTU2t6[1]In the West, a consumer mentality is often fostered in us even when it comes to church. We, unfortunately, all too easily have a “What’s in it for me?” attitude. And, where this exists, little is required of every member to grow in real love and care for each other. And, we like it that way!

Unfortunately, as a result of this, we experience a shallow form of what church really is. While we go deeper and deeper in knowledge with our countless programs, teachings and seminars, we remain poor in true fellowship where genuine love is fostered.

A Family, Not a Business 

Our family is currently planning a trip to Disney World where a bunch of professionals do a superb job of running around in order to make the visitors happy. Isn’t this what church has become for many of us? In contrast, church life should be like family life where flexibility and sensitivity is fostered among every member toward one another and their needs.

Small Groups

Church cell groups, as well as organic, simple and house churches all contribute to making church more real, intimate and participatory for many and I would say are probably less prone to being consumer-oriented. And, I would also greatly encourage everyone to participate in a group of this nature. However, having said that, these groups often struggle to know how to adequately incorporate children with their needs into their gatherings.

Chidren

What to do with the children can easily be a bone of contention and as a result it is probably ignored rather than addressed. Isn’t it strange that, “leave well alone” is the adage followed when all isn’t well. In this case, not addressing this issue of properly incorporating our children is at the peril of a healthy church life, the children’s best and their desire to remain attending when as adults the choice becomes theirs.

Let’s remember that children who have come to faith are a part of His Body. They need nourishment and are even able to nourish. The joy of successfully incorporating everyone should be our goal, especially those that Jesus demonstrated He would never turn away.

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Recently I read a post called, “So Whaddaya do With the Kids” at http://www.home-church.org/voicesdocs/whaddaya.html  that demonstrates a wise, incorporative and selfless model worth considering.  I put it to you as an example “…so that you may know how one is to behave in God’s household, which is the church of the living God (1 Tim 3:15).

Rob Morley

When Affection is as Hate

Do you love really God and want to do whatever He asks of you! How about when it comes to child rearing and disciplining with the rod? The principle “Spare the rod; spoil the child” can clearly be seen in God’s word. Consider the following Proverbs from the Bible (I’ve included excerpts from commentaries):

  • Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him(Prov. 13:24).

(He)Who withholds or withdraws his rod of correction…may be said to hate him; for such fond love is no better than hatred (Gill).

  • Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him (Prov. 22:15).
  • Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die (Prov. 23:13).

to spare (the rod) is the ruin of the child, and (is) no proof of true affection in the parent, but the reverse (Gill).

  •  If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol (Prov. 23:14).

i. e., “You will not kill your son by scourging him, you may kill him by withholding the scourge.” (Barnes).

  • The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother (Prov. 29:15).

The condition of one who has been pampered and indulged. The mother who yields weakly is as guilty of abandoning the child she spoils, as if she cast him forth; and for her evil neglect, there shall fall upon her the righteous punishment of shame and ignominy (Barnes).

You Don’t Love God or Your Child

We say that we love God and will do whatever He asks of us! Yet, excuses for our children, modern psychology, social protocol, fear and false love keep many Christians from administering God’s loving and timely correction with the rod. By ignoring this God-given principle they are violating God who they claim to love as well as robbing their children of God’s love.

Do YOU Take God For A Fool?

Do we take God for a fool for including this way of disciplining in His word? Don’t you think that He would have come up with something better if He felt something better would help? We have come up with all sorts of ways to discipline our children and while many of these have their place they don’t replace those certain occasions when, according to God, the rod will help best.

Are You Adult Enough to do it Responsibly?

God would not have entrusted adult parents with the unpleasant task of having to occasionally spank our children on their bottoms with a stick if He didn’t think that we could do it responsibly. Because of inappropriate use of the rod by some, many want it outlawed or have already had it outlawed. Using this manner of thinking, our cars should be taken away from us because of all the bad drivers and the accidents that they have caused.

Corporal Punishment – An Act of Love

Don’t make corporal punishment the solution for every error. It should only be used for particular willful rebelliousness to your clear boundaries. Have a selection of appropriate punishments in mind so that you don’t resort to corporal punishment simply because you ran out of ideas. Plenty other punishments can be more suitable on many occasions.

When necessary, the appropriate spanking to administer depends on the age of your child, the nature of your child and the incident itself. Small children and even some bigger children only need the threat of a spanking to bring about the right response. However, see to it that you do follow through if this doesn’t work. Also, with little children the spanking sometimes doesn’t need to bring any pain to be effective. The idea is often enough.

Give clear reasons and correction with the punishment. Don’t ever hit out of anger or frustration or in the heat of the moment. When possible, draw away from the incident for a short while to give yourself a chance to prayerfully consider your actions.

Corporal punishment is to be done in love! Do it carefully with God!

Rob Morley

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